Hello tddove,
Thank you for your post. I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you are experiencing. To clarify, are you attempting to control your TV with the Bose Remote Control, or are you trying to get your TV remote to control the Bose Lifestyle 650? What steps have you tried already? Please try to provide as much detail as possible, and we can further assist with some troubleshooting steps.
Thank you!
Brian